IS it well mannerred to help my wife carry the dishes to the kitchen sink?
We’ve been raised of having the mother to do the dishes at home, this means preparing the table for dinner, any kitchen chores are considered mothers’ territory. Now that I am married , I feel its not gentlemanly to leave my wife carry all the dishes. i have guilty feeling of not helping her. Should I just do it myself? Is my thingking right?
thanx
October 28th, 2010 at 11:38 am
i think you should help her,, if a woman stands up and cooks your meal you should carry the plates to her..it is being courteous and being a good person,, i wish mine would foe me,, but he doesn’t either,,, but he wasnt taught how to treat ladies tho..yes your thinking is right,,
October 28th, 2010 at 11:38 am
just do the dishes, really its not that hard! She will love u more for helping.
October 28th, 2010 at 11:38 am
Of course its better mannered. There is nothing worse than to see a man be lazy and watch his wife struggle with all her jobs. Help her. She will be so happy.
Hope i could help =]
October 28th, 2010 at 11:38 am
Hey Bubba, it’s 2008. I do the dishes, the laundry, most of the houes cleaning, I’m the primary breadwinner, and I’m the sexually submissive partner. If you want to keep a good woman you better keep her happy.
October 28th, 2010 at 11:38 am
in this day and age when both men and women work it just makes good sense that both men and women do the chores at home as well and when men adopt the attitude that it’s a woman’s job well then he’s just plain being a jerk, a neanderthal from the ice age who is really trying to find a reason to be lazy and it isn’t working. You my dear are a real gentleman… cudos to you and keep up the good work… I’m sure that she appreciates you and if she doesn’t someone needs to slap her upside the head
October 28th, 2010 at 11:38 am
Marriage is an equal partnership. If you are physically able to help with dishes or any other household duties, go for it. I think by doing so you are being very respectful to her.
October 28th, 2010 at 11:38 am
On my first date with my boyfriend, of a long time now lol, i made him dinner and was so surprised and shocked when he helped me clear the table and do the dishes… that is the thing that sealed the deal for me that night. It was typically considered the woman’s duty… but this is now… and women don’t just run the house anymore, they work and do most of the stuff men do… not saying what the men do isn’t great, it’s just sometimes the little things like that can make life a lot easier… so yea i believe it is well mannered, and well appreciated by your wife! Keep up the good work and if you really want to surprise her… clean the bathroom! : )
October 28th, 2010 at 11:38 am
As a woman whose (ex) husband never lifted a finger around the house (EVER), I have to say yes. Of course it’s well mannered, and you’re very sweet to think of her. No matter if your wife has a job outside the home or is a stay-at-home, she’ll appreciate the help. My mom hasn’t had to work too much outside the home since I can remember, but Daddy always helps with the housework.
I mean, I understand that lots of men feel that it’s the woman’s place to do those things, and as long as he pulls his own weight, there’s nothing wrong with that. I was raised that inside jobs are girl-jobs, and outside jobs and taking out the trash are boy-jobs (more or less), but that’s not like, set in stone or anything! Whatever you and your wife are comfortable with is your own business…Just make sure she knows you love her and are willing to help out sometimes, and she’ll be the happiest woman alive.
Lotsa luck and prayers!
October 28th, 2010 at 11:38 am
She will appreciate any help you and the children (if you have any) can give her.
Please don’t considered helping her with the dishes as performing a great endeavor. Consider all the chores she has performed during the course of the day.
Don’t let your guilt stop in the kitchen, look around you, there are other ways you can be of assistance to keep the house running smoothly, not to mention your marriage. Therefore, to answer your questions, yes you can do it yourself and yes, your thinking is right. So … GET BUSY !